Goalsetting And Why You Should Set Goals.

A great life doesn't just happen. A great life isn't something that will just happen to you out of the blues, by default, one day, whilst living a mundane, mediocre life, you, suddenly, stumble into purpose, stumble into excellence, stumble into meaning. Life doesn't work like that. A great life doesn't happen by default but by Design. A great life happens by DESIGN.

You have to DESIGN the life you want to have, to make a plan about what you want to have in your life. I remember hearing Brian Tracy say once that people make a plan for every other thing they need to get done- we make a detailed plan and design when we want to build a house, with the help of an architect, and then we build according to the laid out design, even when we want to cook, we make a plan, a list of the ingredients we need- and if you are not a list person, at least you make a mental plan, we have a mental picture of what the outcome of putting all of these ingredients together would be- we even have a mental picture of how it will taste BEFORE we cook. But when it comes to our lives, we just "go with the flow, and just wait to see how life goes". That's setting oneself up for a life of mediocrity, mundanity and meaninglessness. A set up for a life of dissatisfaction, full of the pain of confusion and lack of clarity. 

The Real Christmas Message.


This was a letter I wrote to my neighbors yesterday but I thought I share this message here as well for all of my online neighbors who aren’t believers yet or who are Christians but who don’t really have a clear understanding of what the gospel is and what Jesus really came to do for us. Please read and be blessed and Merry Christmas to you and yours ❤️🙏🏾


Hello There,

I hope you are well and that you have the love and comfort of family in this season. 

As we draw near to Christmas Day tomorrow, I feel compelled by God to write to you. You see, I’ve probably not been the best neighbor- not only because my natural tendencies are to keep to myself but mainly, to me, because I’ve never reached out to you with the good news of Jesus Christ.

I do have a reason I haven’t done this. I have often looked at my own life and thought, “well, I don’t have it all together. I lost my cool this day or that day and I haven’t exactly been living like a pious Christian as my crazy can tend to come out now and again”, until recently when God started impressing it in my heart that He hasn’t called me to be pious and churchy- that’s being religious and that’s not having a relationship with Him as my father. I don’t need to have it “all together” to tell others about Him and to show them the freedom, peace and joy He has brought me- I just need to do it and also trust that He loves me- with all of my imperfections- and He will gradually chisel away all the rough bits in my soul, my personality etc until I look just like Him, a personality full of Love because God is Love. 

Our Addictions & The Saving Power of The Lord Jesus Christ (Part 1)

I don't know where to start. 
Help me Lord. Speak through me. This is going to be a really long post so please brace yourself. I struggled to write this. I knew God wanted me to write it, but I struggled with certain things.... but I know it is the right thing to do.

The loved one of someone I know opened up to us about their use of substance. They’d been hiding it and I believe that God spoke to them with this post to encourage them to open up. By the way, I know you are reading and I want to applaud your courage and your decision to throw off secrecy. You must be proud of this one step. I know you may often wonder if it was a mistake to open up but I can assure you, you’ve done the right thing and inside of you lies the strength to FIGHT. Inside of you- the YOU that is fueled by the power of GOD.  I also want you to know that, if I never told you, I love you very much, I pray for you, you are so smart, so bright, you have a beautiful heart, you are fun, funny, you are a package and inside of the package I see a person the Lord wants to use greatly to effect tremendous change in the world- and I’m not saying this to “motivate”, it’s a strong impression in my spirit, and so I want to challenge you to Fight hard and I know you can do this 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

I'd been under the impression that this loved one had been battling with an addiction to weed and that this was the issue but, alas, this loved one had progressed to a harder substance and was beginning to find that they were losing control over their ability to decide whether or not they wanted to use.... 
In trying to connect them to help, I was told that there is a current epidemic in Nigeria with young people, did they say especially in the East? I cannot remember now but basically that young people had somehow found out ways to make Meth in Nigeria and the result of this was an epidemic with hoards of people going mad. As in, becoming mentally unstable. As in, going insane. 
My heart is really broken. My heart is really broken

A cry to Abba....

My Abba..... 
Help me.... 
Help me... 
Teach me, I'm hungry..... 
I want more, I need more. 
Teach me your ways. 
I'm DESPERATE for you. 
Help me Lord. Purge me Lord. 
Where is the dross? In my heart? Take it out. 
In my thoughts? Wipe it out. 
Teach me that my mind may be renewed. 
Teach me. Tutor me. Bend me. Mould me. Fix me. 
ABBBBBAAAAA! Help me. Help me.... 
Help my limitations, my ignorance, 
Don't allow me perish due to ignorance, teach me, instruct me 
Give me the grace for obedience too, help me 
I DESIRE you, I desire you... mostly... 
Other desires show up and for them I shame, 
But thou art my ULTIMATE Desire, 
How do I please you? How do I draw you closer? 
Do you see me? Do you see my heart beat? Help me. 
Don't turn away from me..... Share your heart with me. 
Destroy my heart with what destroys yours. 
Help me to hate iniquity and to see your children with love and compassion 
Love and compassion... 
Love and compassion.... 
Break me with what breaks you..... 
Help me.... 

 *wrote this in August 2021. Felt led to share today. Maybe God wants anyone who reads my recent blog to know that even with growth, there is still hunger for more. It's never ending, we never really get to "the place" where we feel we are all there- and this is good. This keeps us where we need to be, reaching to God, reaching for more, reaching for strength and it keeps us humble, never feeling like we know it all and we have gotten to a place where we "get it", we've attained mastery of spiritual things- please see Philippians 3:12-16 TPT: I admit that I haven’t yet acquired the absolute fullness that I’m pursuing, but I run with passion into his abundance so that I may reach the purpose for which Christ Jesus laid hold of me to make me his own. 13 I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this;[f] however I do have one compelling focus: I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead. 14 I run straight for the divine invitation of reaching the heavenly goal and gaining the victory-prize through the anointing of Jesus. 15 So let all who are fully mature have this same passion, and if anyone is not yet gripped by these desires,[g] God will reveal it to them. 16 And let us all advance together to reach this victory-prize, following one path with one passion.


Make me wise. 
Give me the Spirit of Wisdom and Revelation in the knowledge of you, 
Teach me your ways, 
Reveal yourself to me, show me thyself, 
Thou Mighty Man of War, Thou Mighty Man in Battle, 
Thou Jehovah, my Deliverer,
Teach me, 
I thought it was enough to express my Love and Desire, 
I thought it was enough to have you reveal thyself, 
The Prize to pay is heavy for me, 
I start to pay and then fail and then start over, 
Help my weakness! Help my limitation! 
Reveal thyself inspite of..... Help me... 
I hate to see your children oppressed 
Knowing knowledge and power overturns it, 
Help me..... help me.... 
Even if I never help to set your people free, I desire you, 
I want you, I want to know you.... I want more, 
I want intimacy.... 
Come to me, show me what I need to do... 
What are my consecrations? Show me... 
I hunger and thirst for you.... 

*wrote this as a note in August, 2021. Things are a bit different with where I am with God, more progress, but I'm even more hungry I guess. Felt led to share it so, share I will.

Repeating Patterns.

Today was one of those days. Today was one of those where I needed a really tight hug and a listening ear. Where I needed someone who I could share vulnerably with and to and who would "get me" and who I could sit in silence with and not feel the need to fill up the silence with awkward and forced conversation. I'm not sure what set off the mood and colour the day had today but I didn't actually wake up with that mood. It had changed as I was about to go on our school run- I think it started after I had drunk some green tea on an empty stomach. So whilst on the school run, I began feeling queasy, a type of queasiness that wasn't really nauseous but just really uncomfortable and almost painful in my tummy. Was rushing to drop the kids and run back home to start my work from home job. I tried to show up to work but I just really began feeling unwell- I already had a cold and wouldn't stop sneezing but it was on every call and meeting I had to be on today- I just took the day off. The day then sorta grew progressively worse. I needed to run errands but I just didn't have the energy to. The crazy bit is that this was all mental. It all just was that I wasn't in a great mood. I began praying and just muttering prayers through the day for strength. I knew the fastest way to flip the situation was to turn on some worship and praise music and begin confessing to myself but I simply just couldn't- I had a ready excuse in my head- I was trying to read and answer some self awareness study on myself I was completing. And then hubby came back, kids were back home and there was just so much distracting noise...... It was only this evening that I realised that, actually, at this time last year, on the 29th, I had had an unpleasant and crushing experience that had left me quite deflated. I realised that what I was feeling today seemed to be a foreboding feeling about what my mind was thinking would occur tomorrow- it was relieving the experience it had last year...... I've heard that these patterns and the attending feelings tend to repeat themselves- I can't remember now where I read or heard that but I'm curious, is this true? I need to research that because the feeling I had today was quite alien. But thinking about it in terms of what happened last year makes sense because I had felt really crushed on that day- a lot worse than the feeling I had today but it makes sense that my mind was almost sort of prepping me for what it thought lay ahead.... Lol. I did journal alot and pray a lot (before I was able to draw the lines of connection to what seemed to be happening) as I just wasn't sure what my body and mood were saying to me and I was just in desperate need of comfort, intimacy and assurance from God. EVER HEARD OF REPEATING YOUR PATTERNS? DO YOU RECKON EVEN OUR EMOTIONS ARE REPEATED AT THE SAME TIME OF THE YEAR? Please share your thoughts with me as I'd LOVE to read from you. Until next time Lovely, Ciao. Love Always, Judy.

Living Aligned.

Hi Lovelies,

Hope you are well in yourself. Just thought I drop by to write a bit here as I have a few bits on my mind that I'm trying to clarify. I'm beginning to think that I'll just write in order to arrange and clarify my thoughts..... which was how I really used to write. I feel like I've unconsciously begun looking at my writing in a different way, as though I needed to use it to teach, to inspire, to preach and because of that, I wouldn't feel

Bound. Now What? FIGHT!


So, the devil managed to sneak into your life, as he expertly does, to plant strongholds that you are now struggling with. Somehow these things have grown with you- you thought nothing of them when you were in the world and lived a life of carnality- but now, now, you've given your life to Christ and all of a sudden, what you KNOW you should stop, you suddenly find you cannot stop.

You're confused. You've just prayed and yet, you are being led by the stirrings of your loins. You go back to your cleared device history and mindlessly scroll back to the website you swore an hour ago that you wouldn't visit anymore. After your shameful escapade, you feel dirty. You hate yourself. God must hate you. You cannot pray. These demons are mocking you. You hate yourself. You are bound.