Balancing Motherhood And Work (And Entrepreneurship)- How Do Uk Moms Do It?

Hi guys,
Hope your year's been going great?
Mine's been so so, a mixture of hits and misses but I have stayed hopeful about the misses. 
I've not particularly been excited about the fact that I have not blogged as consistently as I thought I
would but, I've really just had a lot on my plate. I'm not sure I ever mentioned it here but I've literally been looking for a good job all year long. I've come this 👌🏾 close to clinching my dream job but it either doesn't click through or the jobs I am offered (about 4 in total) don't pay nearly enough to actually cover child care costs to the level that I don't feel like I am wasting my precious time working to pay someone to care for my children. 

A great job and fit for my family at the moment would be one that:
1) Makes for easy commute to my home. Anything that would require for me to drive over 30mins to get to is not really the fit I am looking for at this time
2) Pays enough to cover all of my expenses and leave something over thereafter- and that includes the cost of childcare - but still, I would STILL not be happy to pay anyone from £800-1k a month to take care of my child. That's over half of some of the monthly salaries I have been offered 😭😭😭😭. 
3) Thirdly is.... well, thirdly is that I really want to be with my kids. This is actually the main crux of the matter for me now. I think I've stayed too long with them that it's hard for me to think of leaving them in another's care at this time. I'm not sure why this is- I didn't feel this way when I was going back to work with my first son. I wish I had the privilege of having a live in nanny as I used to but, as my family has grown, so has our home but only enough to fit us and not another human being. It just won't be comfortable. Shopping for childcare is rather quite exorbitant and I have had to turn down jobs because of this. 
I've been mulling over this for a while and have wondered if it wasn't probably the best idea to take a while off working for the entire time it took for my kids to start full hours school and then go back to work when they started (at 4 years, which, including my second son, would be in about 4 years time). I was thinking that I could maybe focus on my business which you can find here, a Natural Skincare Line which I began this year, and see how far I can take it- but I still need money to grow my business. Where to find this money? 🕵🏽‍♀️🕵🏽‍♀️🕵🏽‍♀️
And then it came to me-💡💡💡A night job! I could do a Night Job! I could TOTALLY do a NIGHT JOB! Why hadn't I thought about that? It was "un-professional" and not in line with my career but, hey, I can't eat my cake and have it- if I'm toying with pausing my career for 4 years to look after my kids and am pining for money to grow my business with, then there is certainly nothing to lose in rolling up my sleeves and doing a night job- except maybe sleep but I naturally hardly sleep at night so, why not?  So I began searching for them and, since I've got a lot of stakeholder management and customer service skills, I naturally was seeking for customer service night shifts. You know, like the people who you speak to when you call the bank to report fraud on your account at 2am in the morning? Or a night shift receptionist. There were few of those (and I applied for all) and I've applied for so many others. Let's just see how it all works out now. I've still got some interviews for higher paying project management jobs (my original career field) within this month, one next week but, since I got this night job idea, my heart's just totally left the "professional" day job, to the dismay of my husband unfortunately, but, my heart's with my kids and it will be tough to choose the day job should these two opportunities stand before me today. Well, let's see how it all goes and pans out. 
I'm not sure how other moms in the UK are manoeuvreing this childcare issue but, I'd really love to find out from moms who have more that one child not up to the age of 4 and who work- full time or part time- is this an issue you have had to face? If you're such a mum and you are not working, was this the reason you gave up work? How soon do you intend to go back to work if this is you?
Oh, I've missed writing here. It totally doesn't make sense to not be committed to writing, I love it! I'm going to try to be more consistent guys, from my narration above, you can glean that I'm trying to get my ducks in a row 😔😔😶😶
Do take care and, I really wanna read your responses!
God bless and much love😘
Judgejudyjudy....
Xxx...

8 comments

  1. Hi Judith, it's a colleague from Ust. I live in the UK with 2 kids under 4 and l feel ur pain. I am currently in a full-time job and both kids are in the nursery. My salary is okay but not enough to cover childcare costs so btw hubby and l we split the bill for the upkeep of the house to balance everything out.l won't say it's easy and not stressful,i.e getting the kids ready for Nursery for drop off at 7:30 and rushing to work and still doing pickup, and sometimes not having enough for yourself cash wise but the thought of not having something doing or adult interaction drives me crazy.

    I thought about night jobs and weekend jobs but my hubby is not comfortable and won't even let me table it cos weekend is family time which l kind of agree with him. I miss house helps or family members that would come to help you in Nigeria.

    I think the way forward for us in the long run will be to have a live in nanny when we are ready.

    So consider all your options. It's not easy to be a working mom here.

    Best Wishes

    NZ

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    1. Oh wow!
      Thank you so much for your response- I totally get what you are saying! My hubby doesn't want the night job either but I'm thinking I could do part time- a couple of days a week and have my weekends off. I truly, truly want to be with my kids at this time and, like you said, the only option that I think will work best is to have a live in- thank you so much for your contribution. Let's see how it all goes ❤️

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  2. You have an amazing side business!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. Thank you!!! 🤗🤗🤗
      Do patronise please 😄😄😄😘😘

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    2. Do you ship to the US?

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    3. Yes dear, for some extra charge, I ship to the US. Please contact me via DM let’s chat! Thank you 💓💓

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  3. Judith, I went back to work when Val was a year old... it was tough but I was lucky and very grateful that I ended up with a sitter who not only loved my daughter greatly but she also used to come to my house in the morning and most times she would have dinner made when I got home. I was very blessed for the 8 years she did it and it didn't cost me a mint.

    Now my oldest daughter Drea... had two children, she took the time to raise her children... once my granddaughter starts school in a few years, she will go back to work part time. I think if you can do that, it's awesome. Most people don't have the option... I hope things work out the way you need and want it to xox

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    1. Wow! I can’t believe what a lovely sitter that was! I don’t know if it’s possible to find such a one but I really do pray I can 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you so much for your kind wishes Launna. How are you getting on? What’s been up with you? We need to catch up 💓💓💓

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