When A Child Is Mean To Your Child.....


I've got an acquaintance in whose company myself and my son occasionally stay in when circumstances so require but I'm beginning to wonder if it is wise to do so. The thing is, this lady and I are friendly and are probably on our way to becoming friends but her son, who is older than mine with something like 15 months, tends to be mean, rough and brutal to my son and this really boils my blood.....

The thing is, when we do see ourselves, the boys seem happy to see each other ( and my son is a very loving, happy, child who loves to share) but minutes into getting together, this older boy begins to roughly push my son, once he pushed him and he fell and hit his head. On my son's part, he mostly laughs or holds out his two hands in front of him to stop the boy from pushing him but because the boy is really big ( his parents are quite tall), his push almost always moves him over. He's also extremely rough and would keep jumping around your house if he comes around and does not care if his legs land on my son's head (which it has). I tend to be constantly vigilant when they are around and my eyes are always on the kids because even when he thinks you're not looking, he goes and hits my son..... Trust me, I cannot write the things I feel like doing when I see this....

His mom, on her part, would scream at him to stop and sometimes smack him, all to no avail, he just seems mean and what I do is either gently ask the child to not push my son or just carry my son but my blood literally boils when I see how he treats my son..... and I know he's a little boy and doesn't know what he's doing ( my son is 18 months old so the said child is about 2 and a half years old) so I'm thinking it's best to reduce my interaction with them for now, until he starts school at three and probably learns to share and not push people, I don't know.

Have you been in this situation? What did you do or what would you do if you were in this situation? Remember that you are trying to be diplomatic as well as understanding of the fact that the mean child is really only a child.....

Love Always,
Judgejudyjudy...
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  1. Unfortunately I think you have to limit your interaction with this child... I don't understand parents that allow their children to bully other children... I know most don't mean to allow it but they really need to put their foot down and try to make their children understand their inappropriate behavior. If my child was bullying someone, I wouldn't let her hang out with children, if I did and she pushed them, I would remove her immediately. There has to be consequences xox

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    1. To be fair Launna, I see her try to stop him and she seems quite frustrated with it but I do see your point.
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  2. I know a boy who's equally mean but his mother is quite alert to this fact, she doesn't sugar coat it and is very much on top of the situation. I really don't know why some kids just naturally have a mean streak, its quite annoying and embarrassing to the parents. Thank God mine is always cheerful and quick to hug his mates when he sees them, I don't know how I'll handle it if he was a meanie.

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    1. I really think his mum could be firmer like Launna said. I've decided to stop being around them before I'll be tempted to give him some good African spanking, make dem no call Children Services for me, haha! I imagine I'd know just how to handle that kind of streak....

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  3. Please keep him away from any bully else I'll pinch him real hard if I come there. Which kain rough play be that...#mymeanestfaceup.#nojokeraunt

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    1. No be small #nojokeraunt. I've been tempted to pinch him but he's White and that spot would go red! #ashamedofmythoughts

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  4. Well, I don't have a child yet so I can't feel the way you or the woman is feeling. But I think you should limit how much your child spends with hers. I think the boy is getting aware of his strength (due to his height). I just hope it gets corrected fast, so he doesn't become a bully.

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  5. Interestingly this little boy sounds exactly like my son. Very loving but very boisterous. I would understand if you limit your interactions with the mom/child it's your choice as a mom to protect your kid.

    But speaking as a mom who started with a boisterous but gentle child, it mainly started when he became 2 and was learning to make his own stand, then I started the heavy handed naija parenting of yelling and fast smacks. Guess where he is learning it from? Me!! When I realised this, I gave myself a talking to and actively started seeking God's help to make me patient. Telling him "no hitting" and kind hands when I do the opposite seemed quite hypocritical even to me.
    I've read lots and the experts say its a phase. I pray it goes fast.
    Sigh. I could never be the mom that let's her son go into a bouncy castle or enclosed area and forget him there to natter. I watch him like a hawk and even at that he still manages to sneak in a push or a slap at some pretty little white girl/boy.
    Biko, gbaghara but don't isolate a mom who probably needs a friend :)

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